I’ve been going through s it of a premature mid-life crisis, of late, and it turns out that I’m not alone. A lot of people I know, aroubf my age, are feeling as equally stuck, either in careers, lifestyle, location or just in themselves. We’re of a generation that was told we could have it all (whether we wanted it or not!) so now we feel like we may not be living up to expectations, our own or other people’s. Of course, its fine to be happy with what you’ve got and constantly pushing for more can be exhausting, if you’re not doing it for the right reason. That being said, I’ve got a nagging feeling that I’m capable of a bit more… I don’t, something. A bit more freedom? A bit more income? A bit more creativity? I don’t really know, but I’m tentatively considering as career change / mix up. I’m not really in a position to retrain and as I don’t have any kind of routine, attending regular meet ups or classes is difficult.
After all of that, though, change is not impossible but it is going to be impossible to make any kind of change, unless I know what kind of change I want to make.
I’ve been reading a few books, articles and self help type blogs and whilst they’ve given me a few useful pieces of advice, the best thing I read was to not think about what career you want, but what you want your day to look like. Too often, we get fixated on a salary, job title, status, outfit or car but this opens us up to so many more possibilities, which could be just as fulfilling.
The second really useful advice was to throw away the idea of one perfect career, for each of us. The chances are that based on our personalities, skills and lifestyles, we all have a good three or four jobs that would be really fulfilling for us, if not more. The age of a job for life has gone, and although this can be daunting and scary, it also means that we are no longer expected to be tied to one job or career.
So, as for my ideal working day: I’m not an early morning person, I’d love to make time for proper meal times and I’d like to be finished work by 7pm. I work best when I’m left on my own, but I do need a bit of human interaction. I’m good with deadlines and schedules but I need a bit of flexibility so I don’t feel trapped. I get bored easily by routine but I find constant change and upheaval stressful. I’m quite creative but need prompting on initial ideas and I like working with people, as long as there’s no major conflict.
So, The question I suppose is, what do you want your day to look like, and what jobs would fit with that? You can be as wistfull and spoilt as you like, or a little more realistic and practical. There are no rules. Here’s mine, to get started. I’m still struggling to find a job match that would actually provide enough to pay my gas bill.
10.00 Get up, have a nice breakfast, cuddle my cat, do home-based chores and take my time to get ready.
12.00 Start work (from home)
15.30 Head out to any meetings, face to face work, outdoor work errands
19.00 Finish work for the day and either head back home or stop work at home
20.00 Eat dinner